Do you feel your friends 'use' you?

[XuNiNukaza]

Hello Everyone, this is a rather serious subject-- so, if you aren't mature enough for this subject matter; please refrain from reading any further. Also, if you cannot relate to the question-- you may not have the prior knowledge in order to answer the question. So, all I ask is that you be equipped for the question and be respectful to everyone and yourself.

Alright guys, here's a scenario. My Ex-girlfriend and I have been broken up for 4 years; prior to our 3 years of us being together. We didn't split up on good terms, due to her cheating on me. So, after that, the trust just wasn't there; when we were together. She left New York and went back to Florida-- her home state, where we would talk on and off-- apparently she had still loved me, but the relationship was too damaged. But, get this, she eventually got with the guys; she cheated on me with in Florida. So fast forward passed a lot of confuse, we stopped talking again for a few months and then she got in contact with me, again. This time something else was wrong-- the man she has been lusting after for so long; found that she "wasn't there yet" physically; practically stating that she was ugly. So, now she comes to me stating how I was right about him and all this other mess.

Yet, she still goes out of her way to talk to him. Sometimes, I would sign onto skype and she wouldn't say anything to me at all. Basically, she wouldn't say anything to me; if it interest her or if there wasn't for her benefit. Eventually, I got tired of her attitude and blocked all means of her reaching me. So, I can't receive anymore notifications from her. She's been interrupting my life, left and right, telling her circle of friends. I was constantly coming back to her (projecting her feelings onto me). I went out of my way for this girl; even after all the times-- she's hurt me. She also had the nerve to call me selfish. I pray that God has mercy on her, because the world is a mirror and she knows; what's right from wrong.

Do any of you guys have this problem with friends? They only feel the need to contact you; when it's convenient for them. Yet, when the shoe is on the other foot. They never have time for you? Let me know in the comments, below.

[Bahamut]

She was not a true friend. I see a lot of sense in this thread and honestly, I feel sympathetic for you. A dear friend of mine had been cutting herself a lot because she had dealt with a situation akin to yours. I, thankfully, have not had to deal with this directly, but my friends have, so I know what you're talking about. It may be luck, or it may just be sense, and I'm not saying you don't have sense, but all the friends I've made, I've made sure that they're the kind that will always have my back. My true friends. Some people learn from mistake the meaning of true friends, I guess I just knew it all along. I am sorry that this happened to you, and trust me, while it hasn't happened directly to me, I know what you mean. A lot of other people do as well, even if they don't admit it. Everyone in their lives, no matter what, has either directly or indirectly dealt with this situation.
I wished that there weren't as many people like your ex-girlfriend in this world...it just isn't right. Taking advantage of another's sympathy or something else, just for your own benefits...might as well call it betrayal. It just isn't right, and won't help anyone, even those who are the betrayers. If there weren't people like that, then we would be all the closer to preventing suicides and bullying.

[AllyMind5Star]

What a doosie you're in. Firstly, you sound like a Christian man. I am also! I've been baptized and confirmed in the Catholic Church! Secondly, sounds like you love her still. Jesus tells us to forgive others. We do that because none of us are ever good enough at loving. So, here's my advice... now that she's asking for you to be there, be there. Even though it may seem she's using you, stay in contact and tell her that she deserves goodness, and that you love her and will goodness for her. Pray more about this situation and ask God the Father (through God the Son) for wisdom. He's the light of our paths. He's the lamp unto our feet. He will guide you to goodness, that I know and promise.

[GENIUS]

Betrayal remains the one unforgiveable sin, She was not a loyal partner and she does not deserve your trust again. With that said, I think it is best that you tell her how you feel and that no matter what she does the bridge that was burned cannot be rebuilt.

It is a tough lesson for any person to learn, but it must be learned. I do hope you find your special one and experience the happiness only true love can provide. With that said, I have never had a girlfriend so my ability to give advice is limited from what I have already put forth.

[AllyMind5Star]

However, don't let her walk all over you.

[Bahamut]

However, don't let her walk all over you.

Could've edited your last post, no matter.
I agree with Ally somewhat, not completely. Stay in contact with her, but if she betrays you even more, then it is your decision.
I completely agree with GENIUS. Tell her how you feel, and perhaps forgive. But don't forget.

[XuNiNukaza]

However, don't let her walk all over you.

I've already done, what you've suggested above. She said, "Bye Joey," confirming there was no more to be said. So, I'm done; I've been a Christian long enough to discern; when people aren't for me. Also, no, I don't love her anymore--that feeling left long ago, but I have made my mends.

Thanks for your sympathy, everyone, but I'm really asking for you guys to pour your heart out. I want to know about your situation, if you can relate; have you ever been used by a friend-- mutual relationship or impartial.

[InsomniacMan]

I use them.

[Rekop]

No, I don't think they use me.
I like sharing, so it's all cool. (;

[AllyMind5Star]

I have a friend who used me in the past, but he learned better. He would always use me to drive him to places, and I don't think he was grateful. However, he's changed a lot and learned.